I am a mom of 4 who thought she was home free with her oldest son when he went off to college. My serious blunder? Genetics and being naive or maybe just plain stupid.


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  1. Hi Mom,

    When God asked hubby and I to found Glass House Ministries in December of 2008, we had no idea what His plan was. It has since developed into a ministry of prayer and encouragement.

    We’d like to add your name to our prayer list, if you don’t mind. You can read about it here: http://glasshouseministries.blogspot.com/2009/11/breathing-life-into-dead-places.html

    Cheri and Wayne

  2. Oops, forgot to add that you can contact me at: cheri@cherihardaway.com.

  3. Lisa says:

    I am a mom of 3 who thought I was home freĆ© when we sent our son off to college….in fact, we have yet to start payments on that semester in Florida that resulted in zero credits. I don’t know one name of his roommates, I don’t have one picture of his dorm…he was using about 4 weeks in! In fact, I had every reason to believe something was wrong but couldn’t get anyone to talk to me because he was over 18…but they can take our money to pay for it! Interestingly enough, I wrote the Dean of Students today to discuss this very same thing today! I am so glad I found your blog..it has saved me!

  4. Dawn M McCoy says:

    On the post…which you pulled, do you feel like a wee little rowboat, on the edge of a huge whirlpool in the ocean of drama? And you are rowing and rowing on the edge of the whirlpool, trying desperately to get free of the whirlppol, but the best you can do is simply stay on the edge, not getting drowned, but not getting away either? Yah. That’s the life of an addicts parent.

  5. Sheri says:

    I hope things are going well. Been thinking if you.

  6. Betty hollowell says:

    Wow, except for a few details, your journey could be mine. Our 32 year old son just completed a 35 day program and is at home with my husband and myself. Our marriage is sound but our sons addiction has shaken it to its core. I admire your honesty. It might appear harsh to some, but the night we gave him his options and dropped him off at a cheap motel was one of the hardest days of my life. He is working his steps and attending na meetings, and I have seen him smile some, so I have hope that our son may return. He has apologized to us, but it will take him years to make amends. As you wrote…tick tock. Time will heal and tell.

    • madyson007 says:

      Years to make amends is an under statement because every time they relapse they go back to square one. The time you would give an addict to make amends increases with each relapse until the possibility of making amends no longer seems possible. I will pray that this journey is ending for you with your sons recovery but prepare yourself because that may not be the case.

  7. nuckingfuts says:

    You really make me mad. the way you talk about your drug addicted son is disgusting. HE’S YOUR SON. I think your self victimization addiction should be looked at.

    I’m a recovered addict, and a mother. I used meth for years, and other drugs for years before that. I’ve been clean almost 2 years. I’VE BEEN ATTEMPTING SINCE 2008 AND RELAPSED MANY TIMES BEFORE FINALLY GETTING CLEAN IN LATE 2012.

    relapse happens.
    using does not make your son a bad son. You talk about your other children as though they are the good ones. No, they are your scapegoats. I am a mother myself, a damn good one to a beautiful baby girl. I am successful and blessed. Maybe if your son had a mom like my mother was, (forgiving, willing to accept that the war on drugs is a political scam used to make money and create a lower class)
    Maybe then he would be ok.
    i want you to watch a movie, please. it could save BOTH of your lives. its called “the house i live in” its a documentary. if you love your son, you will stop playing victim to save his life. he needs you. and you are his mommy. remember the sweet baby he was, his newborn cry. and go to him. go to him like you did then.

    If you think for one moment that your peace of mind and family are best without this young man, you are proving yourself unfit of the title mother. I know it is harsh. but goddamnit wake up, your baby is dying out there.

    • madyson007 says:

      Guess what? He is not dying out there…he lives in a 5 bedroom Colonial at the end of the cul-de-sac with a jacuzzi and a swimming pool. He has the biggest room of all my kids with flat screen TV. He doesn’t work and sleeps until he feels like getting up. He has a nice warm bed and a kitchen full of food which he raids on a regular basis. I don’t know what world you are living in but he is not dying out there but he may indeed be slowing killing him self. He doesn’t need me for anything other than a ride and money.

      What he does needs is to be thrown out so he has to decide between food and heroin or a warm bed and a pack of cigarettes. What he needs is to be scared shitless with no place to go with nothing but the ground to sleep on. If it was only up to me…that is exactly where he would be.

    • Dawn M McCoy says:

      Meth. The worst thing you can do to a developing fetus. Lmao. Are you fucking delusional? Dude, I’m glad you are clean, but don’t come to the parent’s blogs and be fucking with us. For freaking REAL???? We walk the road of “will our beloved child OD today”, “how can we pay for the funeral”, “another call from the jail?!!!!”. Do NOT PRESUME to walk in our shoes. Wait till YOUR LITTLE DARLING robs you blind, steals your pension, fucks up your family dynamics, OD’s in your house and sells drugs out of YOUR bedroom window. Please, just stay on the “oh! I am a victim recovering addict’s blog and stay the hell away from the parents who have been dealing with this shit for over 10 years.

      • nuckingfuts says:

        This was a very legitimate mistake I have already apologized to Madyson. Please read my comment on her most recent post. I for some reason was led to believe that this blogger attempted to MURDER her child. I don’t know why the link I clicked said that. I apon further reading could tell that she didn’t do anything like that. I’m very embarassed. like, very. also a developing fetus? I didn’t use while pregnant. lol.

        You are lucky Madyson, you have plenty of support here. Good luck to you.

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  10. christawojo says:

    Hello. I really admire you for writing your honest perspective on your son’s drug addiction. I’m wondering if you’d be interested in helping me with a project of mine. How can I get in touch?

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