I just noticed something very strange in our parent/child dynamics with J. When J is in recovery and not using, I am the sympathetic and caring parent. I want to help J with opportunities to succeed. My husband wants to drop him off in the middle of a town and drive away.
When J was using my husband decides he can’t possibly survive out there and we just need to wait this out. I am the one that wants to drop him off at the Salvation Army and drive away.
Why is that? This is part of the reason we are never on the same page.