My youngest son is 10 years old. Today is Halloween and he is out of his mind with excitement. I am going to do everything in my power to make this fun like every other Halloween because he deserves that.
Unfortunately we did have to eventually share where J was. We waited until he asked and we told him. I don’t believe in pretending or lying. We told him J is in jail. He wanted to know why and we said it had to do with J’s addiction. Then he wanted to know when J would be home. That was the hardest question because the truth of the matter is, it could be a very long time.
I told him we just really didn’t know the answer to that. He looked so worried. He loves his brother and when J is clean, he is attentive and kind to his little brother. I don’t want him to worry. I want to pretend that everything is fine but he is a smart little boy. He knows that mommy cries and daddy is even more quiet than usual.
If J could look into the worried and scared eyes of his little brother maybe that would be enough to make him stop but I doubt it. It would only work for awhile if it was J inhabiting his body because the Alien would be blind to the fear in all our eyes.