and I called his probation officer. The lawyer of course said he could probably get his sentence reduced for OHhhh ummm around $8000.00. I told my husband I would divorce him if he spent $8000.00 to reduce J’s sentence by a couple of months. There is no lawyer in the world who is going to get him out of this mess. My husband is mulling it over…WTF?
Drug court is the best he could hope for and quite frankly if it meant two years in drug court verses 12 months in jail. Well lets just say J would be able to fill the obligations of incarceration. From what I can tell drug court is a set up for failure for even the most motivated addict. He doesn’t drive…and I am not giving my life up to make sure he gets to court. I know that sounds harsh but this isn’t even something my husband would consider helping out with, which places it squarely on my shoulders.
His probation officer said leave him in jail and have him start talking to a social worker/addiction evaluator so when he goes before a judge he can say he is actively seeking long term rehab. The judge will need to mandate long term rehab and our insurance may not cover it. If the recent 30 day rehab bill is any indication we may have to sell our house to pay for long term in-patient.
There was one interesting piece of information that I may be willing to follow through with. J was in a very urban area in a bad part of town, in a county that has a really scary jail as jails go. If we post bail, J has a “detainer” out on him for violating parole in the county he lives in. The county we live in is a low crime area with a MUCH less scary jail. If we placed bail at “scary jail”…he would immediately be transferred to “less scary jail”. I could live with that….I think? I am mulling it over.