and this one was just as expected…bad. J is in jail. SURPRISE! Oh wait…are you not surprised? I don’t know what he did because we will not take the call. It actually doesn’t really matter because we will not help him any way.
All you parents who make your way to this blog in different stages of finding out your child is an addict take this advice: Leave him in jail! Do not waste your life savings on his defense, he will only screw up again and you are still out of a whole lot of money. Let a court appointed lawyer do the work.
An addict is pretty much doomed to failure and you are making a BIG mistake if you think your child is going to be different. Grieve like your child is dead. Anything better that comes out of his life is icing on the cake.
I really don’t know what I feel…because I am not feeling much of anything at all. Just a sense of doom and an understanding that all that advice and warning of what was to come that was given early on in my blog from experienced parents, has came to pass. Just run…drop your kid off at the nearest rehab or homeless shelter and tell him he can never come home. Then never look back…
Maybe you will be the lucky parent whose child comes back to you a decade later with a life, but BELIEVE me when I tell you…you would have better odds on winning the lottery than your child winning his battle with addiction.
I am really done…not sure what happens now? I don’t want to be an experienced parent. I am not sure I even want to be a parent or deserve to be a parent. Love will not save an addict. The end.