I am pretty much keeping to my self. I am not continuously checking J’s eyes, which is always my tell tale sign of where he is at nor am I trying to take a sneak peak at his phone and so far it really is working…It is much easier. The flip side of that, in just my casual dealings with J it appears he is doing well umm…today and yesterday? No matter how much I try not to monitor J I still have to look and talk to him like a human being from time to time and when I do my brain assesses. I can’t seem to help it but in my defense I am not seeking those moments out….so that’s an improvement.
Our financial situation is back to alarming. My husband and I have very different views on how we prioritize things. I tend to want to do right by the children. New sneakers at the beginning of the school year is a necessity not a luxury…the old ones are gross and small. School supplies?…necessity. Paying cheerleading bill?… necessity. Getting my hair done twice a year?…necessity. Hubby thinks finishing the sunroom and vacations are a necessity.I think that is a luxury and one that can wait. I didn’t want it to begin with the vacation or the sunroom.
Obviously paying the mortgage and taxes is a top priority for us both but after that there is a great divide. He tends to put his own wants and needs ahead of everyone and I tend to put my children’s wants and needs ahead. This is about to get so ugly because I want him to sell the damn Corvette in the garage. That is luxury that we can no longer afford to indulge. I want that money….we need that money. I don’t like living wondering if my credit card is going to get declined at the gas station.
Let me also mention that damn car sits in the garage with a cover on it. He takes it out when all the stars align…like when there is no rain, sleet or snow, fog, falling acorns, pollen, loose gravel, bugs or humidity. So in other words he never drives it more than 2 or 3 times a YEAR!