I hate disappointing my children but I realize it is a life skill that needs to be mastered. In this day and age there isn’t a lot of opportunities to learn: disappointment is something that you feel and then let go of. It took me a long time to realize that this was a really important teachable lesson that needed to happen. I think J is just now learning that lesson…..which explains a lot.
My older daughter learned this lesson naturally and very early in life. When she was at a gymnastics competition, she knew she was not going to win on every event. She learned that there were others that were going to get their kip or there back hand spring first etc… L is a terrific well rounded package and the time she invested in gymnastics really has shaped the kid she is today. She is beautiful, smart and talented. She is a hard worker who has learned that if you try hard enough good things will come of it. My other children have not mastered this skill either. I need to make a conscious effort to make this happen.
This Christmas J has asked for nothing….that is a miracle in itself. He knows that he is entitled to nothing and will be grateful for what he receives. Unlike past Christmases where he would rack his brain for the most expensive thing he could think of…those days are long gone. My older daughter has asked for nothing and my youngest son has asked for nothing. These three children will be happy with whatever they get.
Then there is my younger daughter, the one that reminds me of J. She has asked for presents that would total a grand if I got her all of them. She will be disappointed because there is no possible way to fulfill her every wish…yet I find myself trying? I know…crazy right? I will help her deal with her disappointment Christmas morning but I will also be disappointed that she still has no concept of money. I am to blame but it’s not to late. She is only 12. I still have time. Right?