I have decided that I love and respect you too much to let you continue this way. That is why you have to move out. I will make your dad choose between you and me. I have not a doubt in my mind that your dad will choose me. I have never wanted to force your dad’s hand because I was very afraid something bad would happen and he would blame me for it or worse himself. Now I can clearly see that you don’t need to move out for bad things to happen…they happen everyday with you living here. Do you think I don’t know what is going on? The neighbors are going to call the police if you don’t stop getting dealer deliveries or your boss is going to fire you for bringing scum into his restaurant. Your father is blind he wants to see you as that son who is finally working hard, someone to be proud of… I see you exactly for what you are. A spoiled addict who lives at home and spends his income on a life of selfish fun…oh and opiates of course. You are making big money and of course have NOTHING to show for it. You ever getting your car back has gone out the window…high+car=stupidity. I am no longer the poster child for a naive stupid parent of an addict who believes everything that comes out of your mouth.
I suggest you look into a room-mate situation, someone you can split expenses with. I think it would be very difficult for you to survive without one but it really is just a suggestion….this is all up to you. I also would not trust a fellow addict to pay his share of the rent, this will be such a good learning experience. I also highly suggest that you start saving every penny you have because you will need it for deposits and down payments etc…I will be letting all the people in your life know what is going on. I BEG YOU, please don’t call your 83-year-old Grandfather or your girl friend to rescue you. In fact, I will be brutally honest with your girl friend and pray she does not decide to move in with you. How long do you really think she is going to forgive you and look the other way?
I am going to be very generous and give you until January 25th to get out. I will allow you to take the following things with you:
- Big Screen TV
- Sony Playstation
- Bed & Bedding
- One Couch
- Green Recliner
- Book Shelves
- and a few other things can be negotiated
Dad and I will be happy to help you move out. It is very important for you to understand that we will no longer pay for any personal expenses like food, toiletries and clothes. You will be dropped from our cell phone service as soon as your plan expires. Cable, cell, wi-fi and a land line is now your responsibility. We will continue to offer you health insurance for as long as your father’s company allows it. Lucky you! Obama will probably allow you to be insured until you are 26! Maybe one day you will give Rehab a chance for the right reasons….your own desperate desire to be clean. Going to rehab and temporarily cleaning up and still living here is NOT an option. You can use or not use…what you can’t do is live here.
I do this because I love you and I understand that until you have to choose between a place to live and food or drugs you will never be clean. It will be painful to watch you struggle, to be hungry but I will allow you to fail if it is what will turn your life around. Coming home to live with us will no longer be an option. Clean or using you are on your own…it is the only way for you to develop into a man. I will fiercely pray that you will show us all what a capable strong man you really are. I know you can do it! I know this will feel like a punishment but it is actually my gift to you. I love you.