Low expectations is a hard thing to master….

I need to get happy for myself…because unhappy sucks. The more things change the more they stay the same. That is certainly true in my world. I realize my happiness does not hinge on the happiness of others but “others” seem to creep into my life no matter how many boundaries I put in place. I think it might have to do with not being able to have low expectations. Having low expectations is much harder than I thought…I think I might pop into a meeting. Can’t hurt, that’s for sure.

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About madyson007

I am a mom of 4 who thought she was home free with her oldest son when he went off to college. My serious blunder? Genetics and being naive or maybe just plain stupid.
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5 Responses to Low expectations is a hard thing to master….

  1. Sheila says:

    madyson, Low expectations are great. NO expectations is even better – that’s my idea of ultimate detachment. I still need some practice with that though. I see signs that my DD is starting to head out of control but she won’t return my calls. Sigh. I try not to worry but I can’t help it. I hope you drop in on a meeting. I wish I could too.

    Hugs,
    Sheila

    • madyson007 says:

      No expectations…hmm. How do you do that? That could work, LOL

      • onemomtalking says:

        Madyson, I agree with Sheila that no expectations is the goal of detachment. Low expectations might limit what is possible. High expectations often lead to disappointment. But NO expectations allows an openness to whatever the future may hold. How? By focusing on your own actions/boundaries/choices (the only things you have control over) and leaving the rest to your Higher Power. Not easy but possible! I think of it this way: if I have expectations, it’s like I’m trying to predict the future. But the truth is, I don’t know what’s going to happen in the future, nor do I have control over that. A meeting is a good step toward learning/maintaining this frame of mind. Much love to you!

  2. sydlaughs says:

    I keep my expectations low. It is very hard to get rid of all of them. But basically, if I know someone is sick, then I don’t have many expectations that they are going to be acting well, being well, and thinking well.

  3. Terri says:

    I agree that no expections is best. I find that if I have certain expectations of anyone and they are living up to those expectation, in my mind, that I try to manipulate the situation and usually make things worse.

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