J is not trying hard enough and by that I mean he should be applying for jobs in mass quantity until something sticks. However, there are a limited amount of jobs available in a reasonable radius. Also, most jobs now a days you apply online for…I really hate this. On a piece of paper he is just a young adult who hasn’t had a steady job in close to two years and that is without even mentioning his felony conviction.
Networking is definitely missing from this equation. I am a teacher and not interested in sharing J’s past with co-workers or influential parents, which is actually a shame because I work in one of the most influential school districts in our state. In fact, the governor lives in the town I work in. When I think of the parents whose children attend our schools, what a waste of potential networking. Very sad…
My husband comes up with all these great idea’s for J but ultimately they all involve sharing J’s past with people we know and I will not do that. Maybe it is my fault, maybe I just need to put all out on the line and start telling J’s story and network. I just don’t think this is a healthy career move for my husband or for myself.
J networking sounds great in theory but he is not involved in NA/AA. Then, this all goes back to me making him go and I really don’t want to go there. If he went to meetings exclusively to network for a job???? How respectful is that to a 12 step program?
J is required to do community service every week so he actually does do volunteer work. He volunteers at the firehouse…cleans, helps with Bingo and what ever else they need. He also works on the local senior citizen bus…which I think is really sweet. He helps seniors carry packages and groceries up to their apartments. Not much networking potential going on at either of those volunteer jobs.
Anyone have some volunteer jobs they can think of that actually might lead to another job? I also want to mention how much I appreciate all of your thoughts and concerns (even when I hate what some of you have to say…LOL). I almost always have the feeling that you are all on my side and that can feel so good when I feel so alone.