Ok now let us consider J is not getting a job because he doesn’t want to. Things are to good at home and it is easier for him just to skip the whole job thing. I suppose this is a possibility but the pay off a bed and food just doesn’t seem all that great. Well I guess he has a shower and a TV too. BUT…
He has a beautiful new girl friend who I love and he adores. WE do not give him ANY money. How long does he think he will be able to keep a girl friend with no money? What is the pay off when your friends play poker on Tuesday nights and you can only watch because you can not come up with $10.00 to get into the game. What is the pay off when your friends go out for Monday night football and you can only get a coke from the change you picked out of the dryer, while they eat hot and spicy buffalo wings? What is the pay off listening to your father degrade you everyday because you still have no job? What is the pay off for having no idea how you are going to pay your fines off or if you will ever drive again?
J’s problem is his inability to deal with his past and go in and sell himself as the great package that he really is and make no mistake, sober J is a terrific package. He is intelligent, personable and has a very clean prep kind of look. He has worked since he was 15 right up until he went to college and everything fell apart. He has worked as a waiter, a cashier, and landscaped. He left all of those jobs in good standing. He was not afraid to work. He liked having money, he could call his own.
We are all having trouble reconciling the convicted felon with the boy we knew and the one standing in front of us. He is fearful and ashamed to talk about his past and I really have no advice to give? What is the pay off for not much of anything?
Maybe you all are right…having a warm bed, food and a TV is to much.