I am watching my son experience all sorts of consequences and prejudices for some very bad choices. In recovery or not it can be a hard life.
I really think being an active addict who wants no help and is ready to accept the possibility of death as a consequence… There will never be a rock bottom for them just despair. They will not understand that stealing your grandmothers ring or your baby brothers savings bonds, or your dying aunts medication is the lowest of the low. They are and will be living exclusively to chase that high. PERIOD.
The thing is, could there possibly be a different kind of addict who is active in his disease can’t help himself and hates what he is doing . He wants help, he wants out of this life but just doesn’t know how to make that happen. Even when he is offered help, he fails and then fails again but he is chasing the idea of being clean and sometimes that is all it is to them an idea. We know that some will discover that it can be done…
Are these two addicts the same? Should they still be treated the same? I don’t really know the answer but would like to hear what you all have to say. After reading the above descriptions, I think it is possible to be both “kinds” at different times in an addicts life. BUT, I still think someone who is “trying” deserves our help and compassion.