I had a really ugly conversation with a woman who I thought was a friend. She is the mom of one of my daughters friends. She has always felt it necessary to diminish my daughter in any way possible to make her daughter look better? Sounds childish right? I have ignored it for many years because I understand the wonderful little package my daughter really is and never felt the need to defend or explain anything. I think she feels the need to tell anyone who will listen how wonderful her daughter is because people do not necessarily see it. Her daughter is not always well liked by her peers and she is always a part of the drama, drama, drama. I think my daughter in general works hard to stay out of that. She is not overly concerned about the clothes she wears or the car she drives but “friend” is obsessed with all of that and her mother too.
I ignored all the garbage BUT, she has gone to far and I had to respond. I have this terrible feeling this is going to get really bad. In general I am not a confrontational kind of gal but I could not stop my self and I told her what I thought. I was just tired of all the digs. It is not enough for her to just say how wonderful her daughter is… that I am use to. She has to say it in a way that makes my daughter less than. I am so mad I have gotten sucked into this, I really do know better but I could not help myself. I do not like to draw any attention to our family for obvious reasons. We are tragically flawed and I am still holding on to all these secrets that others know nothing about…this did not help. Keeping my head down and flying low under the radar is tough to do when all eyes are turned on you. I am going to be like Dory and just keep swimming. I am just filled with metaphors today…Ok I will stop now.