I have been having trouble being that Glass Half-Full kind of gal…when I had that thought I remember writing a response to someone.
I responded to some wise advice Syd once gave me: “I always seem to inherently see the good in people. I am a “half-full glass” kind of girl. My husband is the exact opposite and he deals with this much differently than me. J longs for his fathers love and my husband withholds it as a form of punishment and personal torture for them both. It is so ugly and is a such a big source of stress in my life.”
I want J not to impact our family but no matter how hard you detach…he still does. The money that has been invested in him is done…we can not get it back. It infuriates my husband to see J spend money when it feels like we do not have any. My husband wants J to do penance for the rest of his life. I strangely see both points of view. Point 1- J trying to put it behind him and live! Point 2-My husband having anxiety over our debt which he can not contain and comes bubbling out and he lashes out at J.
My husband will not be able to unconditionally love J anymore and that makes me sad.