I have known this for a long time but have no clue how to change it. I do not believe my son is using, he is clean but is her sober? What constitutes sobriety? It does not seem to be enough that he is no longer using because his circumstances remain the same. He is at a stand still in his life. Fixing it, is enabling but doing nothing is a dead end. So we all sit here playing our parts and nothing changes.
My son needs therapy, he needs a program and something to live for, something to follow. He has lost his way. I can’t find this path for him he needs to search it out for himself. When I find the answer for him…it is a lost cause because it has no meaning for him. Only he can find his way while I wait and pray that it happens very soon because it is painful for us all.
When I say will not force my child into a program it is because it will be meaningless. Interventions have a place in addiction but it is not “THE” answer. I have an adult child who I do not believe would be eligible for rehab because he is not actively using. BUT I am telling you there is still despair and sadness all around. Hope will only come when he takes action. So we wait…
Does he know we love him? Can he feel our impotence, our inability to act? Does he know we are waiting?