Truer words were never spoken…

I visit an alanon chatroom.  I almost always feel better after spending time with people who understand what it’s like to live in a life of almost constant turmoil.  I asked a question and the answer was an epiphany: My question was “Why are things the same if he is no longer using? ” and a very wise person said “Recovery is change…in attitude and in how they treat themselves and others”.  Duh…It’s not just about stopping?  Go figure??? I thought the cure-all would be him not using and everything would go back to the way it was two years ago.  I mean I didn’t think it would be an instantaneous change but i definitely did NOT think it would be the same bullshit!  In some respects it’s worse because my expectations for him have been raised but his own expectations for himself have not.  His priorities are the same.  In this order: sleep, friends, girlfriend, food.  Our priorities for him are in this order: a normal schedule, college, job.  Can you see the conflict here?  Right now nothing on our list even makes it on to his radar.  I hate this life we are all leading.

About madyson007

I am a mom of 4 who thought she was home free when my oldest son went off to college. My serious blunder? Genetics and being naive or maybe just plain stupid.
This entry was posted in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink.

One Response to Truer words were never spoken…

  1. Becky Smith says:

    Hi there!

    I’m hoping you’re the one who left a comment at Smithellaneous? (I Googled your site.)

    I just wanted to thank you for stopping by and leaving your kind words about our family. I am touched by your honesty in your own posts about your son and can’t imagine the pain you’re dealing with.

    My husband (and both of his younger brothers) have had drug/alcohol addiction problems through the years (Thankfully my husband’s been clean thirty years!) If you’d ever like to e-mail for a place to “vent,” you’re more than welcome to do so.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s